B’nei Mitzvah

When a child reaches the date of their 13th birthday in the Jewish calendar they become Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah, which means they are obligated to take on the mitzvot of being an adult. Traditionally this is marked by offering the Bar/Bat Mitzvah an Aliyah - the opportunity to recite the blessings and read from the Torah scroll in a Shabbat morning service. FRS believes very strongly that the process of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is much more important than the performance and this process includes peer-led teaching on a Friday afternoon (Friday Group) and our exciting new programme - Massu'ot.

MASSU'OT - our new Bnei Mitzvah Programme for Years 6, 7 & 8


Introducing a B’nei Mitzvah programme that can be as unique as each participant!!  Massu’ot means beacons in Hebrew. We have chosen the name because at FRS we believe that each B’nei Mitzvah is a shining light in our community, helping to guide and shape us as we grow. We hope that learning and creating together will ignite a love of Judaism and community, sparking curiosity and new friendships along the way. Massu’ot begins in year 6 and takes you right up to the date of your B’nei Mitzvah. After you finish the programme you are invited to join the exciting opportunities that await our post-BM students, including becoming a helper, hadracha (leadership) training, weekends away, and our international trips. The Massu'ot booklet explains how the programme works, and the different opportunities available to you as you build your journey. If you have any questions or need further information, please contact Rachel Fidler in the first instance, on rachel.fidler@frsonline.org.

Click here to download the Massu'ot Brochure to read the full programme - how it works, what you'll need to do to complete the programme, how to book the events.

Bookings to sessions & events can be made here: www.ticketsource.co.uk/finchley-reform-synagogue


Friday Group (starting approximately a year before a Bar/Bat Mitzvah)

B’nei Mitzvah students at FRS learn in a dynamic and exciting peer-led programme called Friday Group. They meet weekly one-on-one with their helper (a young person who has recently been through the process themselves) and learn the prayers, blessings and Torah readings which they will read on their Bar Mitzvah / Bat Mitzvah, also giving them the skills to lead services in the future.

Friday Group dates can be found here: www.frsonline.org/FridayGroup

It is possible to download the following audio clips and save them on a computer or transfer them to a mobile device. Click on the download link and then, depending on your internet browser, either a new window will open and you can right click on this to save the audio or a window will be presented offering the option to save the clip.

Blessing before Torah - BM Melody

Blessing after Torah - BM melody

Blessing before Haftarah

Blessing after Haftarah

The Haftarah reading follows the Torah reading on each Sabbath and on Jewish festivals and fast days


Friday night candles and Kiddush

The blessing for lighting the Shabbat candles can be found in the siddur on page 447

Blessing for candles - spoken and sung

Two candles or more are lit on Friday evening

The Kiddush for Friday night can be found in the siddur on page 452.

Kiddush for Friday night

Kiddush, literally, "sanctification," is a blessing recited over wine or grape juice to sanctify the Shabbat

The blessing for bread can be found in the siddur on page 453.

Blessing for bread - spoken and sung

Challah is a special braided bread eaten, on the Sabbath and holidays.